When asked about school readiness skills, many teachers say children who succeed in kindergarten know when and how to control their impulses. They can follow through when a task is difficult and listen to directions for a few minutes. These skills are linked to self-control. Children can develop them at preschool and at home.
Here are a few ways families can help children learn self-control. Change the rules of a game to make it an opposite game. For example, instead of playing the familiar version of Simon Says, play Simon Doesnâ€™t Say.
Explain the new rule in words and actions: â€œDo the opposite of what Simon asks you to do. If Simon Says â€˜Touch your head,â€™ you should touch your toes.â€ Be sure to demonstrate how this works. Keep directions simple.
Take turns being Simon. Finish what you are doing, then respond to requests for attention. For example, if you are on the phone and your child asks for something (and itâ€™s not an emergency), let her know you need to take time to complete your conversation. This is a good way to let your child practice waiting for a short time.
Do activities together that require following directions. For example, put together a model, play follow the leader, or cook or bake: â€œIâ€™m going to read the recipe aloud. Listen carefully so we will both know what to do. Iâ€™ll read them again as we do each step.â€ Help children understand how long they will have to wait for something and suggest activities to do while they wait. Say to your child, â€œGrammy and Grampy are coming over before dinner. Would you like to draw some pictures to give them?â€ or â€œAs soon as I put your sister to bed, I will read you some stories. You can choose three books for us to read together.â€
Work with your child to complete a puzzle that has a few more pieces than he or she is used to. Set up the puzzle in a place where you can work on it for several days, if needed. Celebrate together when one of you puts the last piece in place. Plant some easy-to-grow marigold seeds in a pot or in a garden. Check together every day until the plants pop up. Over time, watch the plant grow leaves and flowers.